I love my parents but reddit

I love my parents but reddit

I can’t exactly figure out why because most of the time nothing inherently bad happens while we’re together. Basically my parents don’t believe that I’m gay. They think that I’m just being gay to look different. r/AskReddit is the place to ask and answer thought-provoking questions. Yes, we had to move a lot. The goal is to not be in prison and not be homeless or a virgin. Eventually she will get a clue or not. They're in their late 70s, so I don't have too many more years to just be nice to them. They don't hide the fact that they are disappointed in me, even though I am doing well. They clearly do not have your best interests at heart. That is h The opposite of this was recently asked on r/askmen and there were a mix of results. We should just treat them the same because they have the same nature: no matter whether loving or abusive, the two types of parents are caught up in the cycle of ignorance, lack of intention, making unawakened choices, and clinging. It gets better. My mom didn't teach me about sterilizing, so it was disgusting, scabby, pus Sort by: NuclearNovaBomb. Join. My mom was VERY regretful of having me because Even if my sister follows my parents, or my best friend and I lose contact, or if the greatest love I have ever had (not even in the romantic sense) finds someone else, then I will continue to love these three girls with everything that I am. I'm 20 now and i love my family and my mom stopped beating me around my 3rd year of middleschool. Then Jimmy goes and shoots him, and the cops rush in, and Joel says “uh, I accuse my parents!”. . Fuck, I don't think I even truly love anybody at this point. I love my mother a lot but I definitely resent her for always poking fun at my insecurities, my mistakes and my emotions. I went no contact with my mum earlier this year. She cooks for me and I love her to death. Throwra193982918. Just like you worry about your parents health, they also worry about yours. Didn’t love me enough. I wasn't a victim of child abuse. SplendidPunkinButter. I don't respect or admire them even though they're my parents and they've lived much longer than I am very low contact with her though and I live in another country. Like, if they were not my parents, I probably wouldn't want to make friends with them. I love my parents, but it's muddled. We are really well off and I never really have to worry about money but me and my siblings feel extremely guilty when making them spend money on anything but school My brother always chose my mom but i, who had a closer bond with dad always answere "i don't know. But it’s not so much that you’re exaggerating what they did or didn’t do, it’s that they somehow hurt you, maybe even betrayed you in some ways, and this is manifesting in a way that is confusing and uncomfortable. Growing up, my mother was my hero. I don't love my parents. My mom and dad are both working, and I was a very energetic kid, so Kids raised by narcissistic parents grow up with the feeling they’ll never be able to please them. Dad drinks way less then he did before and we are just a happy family now. Mental health in brown households is a JOKE. I know it feels dismissive to hear that you won't always feel the way you feel as a teenager, but it's the truth. I loved them. I like living with my parents. ADMIN MOD. Provide them facts and figures, information about the safety of the campus. Whatever they say, say "OK," or "I see," and then keep your mouth shut. I don't love my parents, either, and I continue contact with them out of a sense of obligation and the desire to not cause them pain. I don't understand why, or how. This is a great way of putting it, and I feel it holds true in any and all relationships. I’m in my late 30s, married, with kids, and my mom treats me this way. Weird things happen to you". I proposed to Sara and my parents didn't take it well, they threatened to stop I was 23 with 3 kids and trying to figure my shit out. Just try to be decent and respectful, at least they are your benefactors. I think that’s verbatim what the line is. I never heard him say that again, and he always kissed and hugged our kids as much as he could ️. My parents are good people. Didn’t support me enough. They’ve hardly ever said it to me and almost never showed me love the way I needed it. Even over your own desires, or your needs. Some background: Im in my mid 20s. Notably, my dad dumped my mom when she went abroad for a semester and upon her return that summer BEGGED her to take him back. They never treated me particularly badly. I've felt shame, guilt, grief, but I haven't missed her. S. My parents have also invalidated my feelings wayyy too many The truth is that I don’t think I’ve loved either parent for a long time. Since the moment I was born, my parents have fought tooth and nail to give me a great life. I'll start by saying that I absolutely love my parents (I'm 16). They were never emotionally there for me when I was younger. That certainly isn’t love from her. 1. 15. Maybe you'll make some friends in the process. I don't appreciate everything they did, but I still love them. i (16m) recently was forced by my parents, and she by hers to break Your parents probably figured that out already, they probably don’t need you to show affection, when you’re uncomfortable doing so- just make sure they know for sure. My parents are/were toxic. Yet for some reason, it feels unnatural for me to tell my parents that I love them. But, they are my parents. Best of luck in this 70 year hike we call life. I sort of hate my father, he abandoned me from 3-18. I could see both sides, and I was so relieved for them both when they gave up. Most parents love their child though, because it's animal's primal instinct, but it's often one sided love. But it’s the parent, not the child, who has the problem — a personality disorder that renders them physically incapable of empathy and love. I can’t go a day without feeling sick from being so anxious. Be as interesting as a gray rock. All you can do is be better for both yourself and your son. To me they aren't parents at all. For the first 25 years of my life I never experienced love or happiness. I am very emotional right now. Secondly, if you want to improve your relation with either of your parents, start treating their significant others as your own. When you unlock a new dialogue option of your parents. 4. I miss my dad everyday, and I worry about my mom every single day. I know I did it, and so did my little brother. I get so excited and block out everything else, but when it comes to animation, I just don't get that spark. I got my ears pierced when I was 8, and they were constantly infected. You can’t force other people to change. I just don't feel the same way my parents feel for me. I am glad to be raised by loving parents. " That made my mom angry and called me a traitor. I could very easily have a shallow sort of friendship with both of them. The last time I said "I love you" to them was when I was about first or second grade. Or like her. Disgusting platitudes that, in my mind, only serve to silence us victims because our truths are too difficult for "normal" people to hear. They truly do love me and I truly do love them. Even after all the pain and suffering they've caused me and the lasting mental trauma that I've been struggling to work through in my adulthood. My mom moved to another country when I was 9, and there was nobody there to get me a bra (my aunt noticed and got me one later). And I start to hate them for not letting me go. Narcissists are emotional terrorists. Forget about my own room, I can't even have a diary of my own. And that’s okay. They are everything to me. ) leaves that household and is now living on his own without their parents, and goes and leaves all that negativity behind, finds help for themselves and does better for themselves Now you just have to wait them out. And when I was a kid they’d 14M subscribers in the TwoXChromosomes community. Families squeeze and sometimes squeeze too much. My mom told me how she was afraid of her own dad, not because he was abusive, but because he was the dad. Not to forget the lack of privacy. I love my dad. Many of them don't want to see you happy and flourishing because they are miserable and think you shouldn't elevate yourself above them. It was just me. My parents are pretty great people and I love Take advantage. To be honest man, if you truly truly loved her, you’d chose her over your family. comments sorted by Best Top New Controversial Q&A Add a Comment. Emotionally, I would be able to get over it pretty quickly. /r/rescuedogs is dedicated to educating, advocating, and assisting in all things regarding rescued doggos from chihuahuas to Great Danes! Please glance over our rules prior to posting and WELCOME!! God is to be first in all things. Anywhere else in society, us saying we don't love our parents is met with the "but, they're your PARENTS" or the "but, they love you IN THEIR OWN WAY". I was living at home with the parents, bartending part-time, but it felt like wasting my college years since I wasn't putting my B. Its crazy what they know about you, even if you have never said it out loud or hinted at it. You're not alone. I grew up with an alcoholic father and narcissistic mother - the complete opposite of consistent. It's not like my parents have ever been abusive to me or anything like that. We should treat unawakened actions They do love, however. Some parents end up making you feel like the failure, when you really haven’t. So because of that, I have needed things from these Who you want to be, and fixing the issues that got you there in the first place instead of pursuing more problems (and this is already a problem because your family is already against it) But that's literally the reason they made you break up according to what you wrote after. My parents didn't have much in common, and they didn't respect each others' interests. Remember you are not a In a basic overview, a core belief may present in the form of 'Because I don't love my parents, I am defective' or 'Because I strongly prefer to have a loving relationship with my parents, It absolutely MUST be that way'. Ever since I was a kid my dad didn’t really talk to me or my siblings because he’s bad at talking to kids, so we never really said “I love you”, recently since he’s getting older (he’s 54) I thought I’d start saying “I love you” to him just in case something would happen, I didn’t expect him to start saying it So if we shouldn't hate an abusive parent, we shouldn't love a loving parent. We do not have any age-restriction in place but do keep in mind this is targeted for users between the ages of 13 to 19. I know I love my Edad. The Ego trip is out of control. love_marine_world. Since I came out as gay, my My parents berated me for my behaviour, often saying that I had been troubled since I learned to speak. They do this thing where they talk to you like a piece of shit, you try your hardest to move away, stay away, ignore them by putting headphones in, stay quiet. If they won't leave you alone, leave the room without saying a word. So I sucked it up, moved to the coast, and spent the next year or so working, learning, meeting new people, dealing with new experiences, and growing while out of my comfort zone. After that i said this is why you should wear a condom, and i have never heard my dad laugh so much to any of my jokes. During the years they made a lot of sacrifices and gave me really all I need, at 18 they bought me a car and 2 year later a second better one. I love my family deeply, but I find it hard to be around them. 30M subscribers in the memes community. I did watch my parents (especially my mom) desperately try to connect with my brother when he was being reclusive in high I do love them for who/what they are, but I don’t feel very attached to them. Ask a question or start a conversation about (almost) anything you desire. If i leave a table and my dad talks to me im gonna shit myself. It's true, which is why if they can afford it, Indian parents will pay for their kids college education. I missed the parents I deserved. I live with a relative now and my dad has been unemployed for roughly two years and can’t keep a job due to his alcoholism. My mother is a narcissist and former alcoholic. I am the only son of my parents. We're both much closer to our parents now that we don't live with them full-time anymore. Embrace it and cherish it. Light. There's been a lot of posts about bad parents recently, so I just wanted to share about mine. I suspect this is where my anxiety and depression stems from, amongst other things. My entire reality was melancholy and depression, so much so, that I and everyone around me thought it was me. I love my parents. I wish you nothing but peace and happiness. It sounds like you’ve done just that, and I am proud of you for being better. I sort of hate my mom, shes been a drug addict since I was 15. I feel bad for it. I feel like I can't stop loving them. I remember the day when I finally realized I didn't have to take their toxicity and learn to retreat to my own home when they drove me nuts. Of course, they have some conservative views but they are generally nice and great people. They can suck it, and I love myself. I've managed to make it work thru couponing and exchange groups online. That's the scary part of my depression. Stereotypically it would be assumed that the wife loves the kid more, but from a Hi, 20m here,i was scrolling through tik tok , and then i came across a tik tok vid, talking abt dad son relationship and how our parents are getting old, and i felt that deep in my heart, so my situation is, i do love my parents i appreciate all the effort they did to be what iam now, but at a younger age ,they didnt treated me well, they were toxic , but i know they didn’t mean to be toxic r/AsianParentStories. Try to just reminescence the love they once had for you. I’m trying not to regret telling them this as I know that I needed to tell them at some point and I guess that this was that time. But then, I thought for a second. However, I'm numb to their emotions and affection now because I never got that from them until recently, so it's a foreign concept to me. I'm 20F, and moved out at 18 to live with a now ex boyfriend. Both grew up to poor hard working parents, my mom a first gen immigrant. Life is messy, it’s hard, but it’s beautiful. Meanwhile, stop taking anything your parents or other relatives say seriously. I’m pretty sure I fell out of love for them in my early teens and just faked it to survive until I moved out. wouldn’t be where i am rn without them. God wants you focused on Him first and foremost. Forgive and let go the guilt that you weren't your best. I don't tend to get lonely and I don't miss people. In terms of actually loving them, it’s really your choice, it’s not much of a sin of not loving someone who didn’t accept you. If you love someone, or something, as much as you love God, then you are divided in heart, mind, and soul. If they put hands on you, call the police. 2. It doesn’t matter if they’re my parents, they didn’t do enough. No, I have good reasons for being tired of my parents. It's a natural reaction for a child to feel jealous when your parents have moved on with someone else. He has a phone but he makes no active effort to reach out to me. Most people experience more emotional turmoil as teenagers than they do in their entire lives afterwards. sorry for my little biography, but i felt connected with your story. As I became an adult and was able to look at her actions through more mature eyes, I realized that she is incredibly immature, petty, and disrespectful. Reply reply. And i’m not sorry. She helps me think about my history class in a different way that I usually do. My parents are hardworking people, they are supportive but abusive and hypocrites at the same time,I started going to the library to study after these bad grades since I wouldn't study at home, I leave home at 10 am. (bad) Stories caused by Asian Parents. People who love you do not put you in these ultimatums. I think my resentment for my parents stems from a few different things: First, my younger brother had far less expectations placed on him, was not berated as much as I was, and was coddled for much longer. Just try to know what’s happening, acknowledge when you are wrong, and apologize when necessary. My dad said that he still loved me as a son while my mum said nothing and I think is quite upset. [serious] why do you secretly resent your parents? Archived post. TLDR: Parents got in the way of my relationship and forced me to breakup with my For example: person #1 raised being abused mentally (not allowed to hang out with friends, negative talks about child’s physical appearance, divorced parents, has CPTDS, social anxiety, and mild depression, etc. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. My parents never wanted Sara since according to them "she didn't suit me", that I should look for a woman who adapted to our lifestyle. You could not of said anything back to them for a whole month, the one time you snap because they’re talking to you crazy. My dad passed away 5 years ago. Rant/Vent. My dad is just a shit show. I lost the love of my life because of my parents. I think it's pretty normal for teenagers to not want to talk to their parents too much. Love is a powerful force. Yes, I have housing assistance so my rent is only $255 a month but still, that means I have $675 left to pay all of my bills for my son and I. They love the power and control they have over their children and anyone in their power/authority sphere that they can bend or break to their will. r/teenagers is the biggest community forum run by teenagers for teenagers. Well, until 8 I grown up with my uncles, because my mum moved in another country to work. His face dropped, and in an almost toneless voice, he said "I can not remember ever being huggede or kissed by my parents". We were all 15 years old once and I remember the heartache I put my parents through. They simply had a few instances of power over others early in their lives, and, they liked the sensation. Talk about your concerns/feelings/doubts (open up) and let your resolve, and confidence, echo throughout your conversations. I don't like my parents, I don't love them. Why, specifically, do you regret becoming a parent? It seems like a lot of the people here really love their kids, think that they are cool, smart, funny, and super neat kids, but they regret things like the work it takes to be a parent, the lack of freedom, exhaustion, tedium, that kind of stuff. Build a better you, as for your parents, it may be too late. Give your parents a big hug today. I (20F) am feeling super conflicted right now. I don’t think I hate them either, I’m indifferent. I used to say I had the worlds most resistant depression—that I just couldn’t be happy, and absolved all responsibility from my parents and family. I Love My parents So Much. I was having a conversation with my parents and one of them said that they saw a furry and was displeased with how it acted. As long as this core belief is held onto as true, you will continue to experience emotional disturbances such as depression I am 17 yrs old who is currently studying for entrance exams, I fucked up my grade 12 exams pretty bad (I did pass them with 63% marks). I Love My Parents, But I Don't Like Them. I literally could not survive without them, they’re my best friends in the world, I love I do love my parents, I would be devastated if anything were to happen to them. Sounds like your parents were consistent, which is so invaluable for a child. Nothing they did was enough, they are irredeemable in my eyes. My dad is a huge part of my life with helping me with my essays and motivating me to do better in school. Wait a while until the real estate market cools down a bit, and then watch for an opportunity. Your Mother has not learned you are an adult. Count yourself lucky they are supportive, regardless of how you thought they would react. I (25F) have always had a strained relationship with my parents. Yep. [new] I love my family, but I don’t want to be around them. And you’re a good person for caring so much. Be polite but don’t take her seriously. Now I ain’t no therapist but I hope this helps, even just a little bit. You can talk to them every day, or never again. I’m jealous of people who love their parents a lot and have good relationships with theirs. Accept, forgive and break the cycle where you can. So essentially, the money they could have saved for their own retirement is now 'invested' in their kids, who will take care of them when they get old. They're jerks who abused children. It's on you to make the most of it. Ok I’m 32 and came out to my family at 30, there were mixed responses but I was mostly worried about my mom and dad (religious people in a conservative country), they weren’t thrilled but assured me that they’ll love me no matter what. NarcissismIsntPretty. Welcome to TwoXChromosomes, a subreddit for both serious and silly content, and intended for… The thing about my parents is that they were both great people, brought down by being married to the wrong person. Our subreddit is primarily for discussions and memes that an average teenager would enjoy to discuss about. But I need to. I think having something to compare it to helps. I think the best way to frame it is that, they’re your parents and so it feels fucked up not to 1000000% adore them. If you don't love your family for now, it is what it is. My mom has a saying, "kids are like dividends, you get out of them what you put in". ) What flagged it to me was things like: I don't love my parents, I'm weirdly solitary and independent : like an introvert squared. Their love was conditional. You’re not alone in this thinking. chrissypuff. You don't have to cut ties with them just because you don't love them, since you don't hate them either. You owe your parents the same amount of support and unconditional love as they gave you. But it was all for us. There aren't. My brother then said that when he was walking to work, a 13 year old kid barked at him. They’re constantly belittled and treated as if they’ll never be good enough. [Support] Narcissistic parents project their fear, pain and inadequacies onto you because their parents did it to them. Thats the only person i’ll ever owe love to. r/teenagers. I sit right back down and listen close because I love my parents. I rarely see him. Make eye contact, show them your commitment to be yourself. A community where people can share their experiences of growing up with Asian parents, specifically, those who are strict, abusive, or have impossible expectations. •. I love myself, husband, in-laws, husband's family and certain members of my family. This is a place for people to vent, seek support, or offer advice to others who are going through similar situations. They didn't start out this way. Ignore her running commentary on your life and do what you decide. I know how you feel, after awhile with my parents, I felt nothing after saying "I love you". In my 21 years of living, I have never felt emotionally intimate towards my Asian parents. Listener Write In. My parents are very different in the way they raise children, they are closer to the age of some of my teacher's parents than the ones of my friends so they are a bit old school. I don't fucking understand either. I think coming to the realisation you don’t love a parent is huge, and so outside of most people’s experience it’s taboo. I want to love them, I just don't. Your parents love you, and absolutely don’t see you as a failure, rather a young man just trying to find his way. Not the A-hole. Memes! Point being - don't worry about it. I can't really bring myself to love my own parents. Never deny your gut instinct, and quit thinking there are rules for life. I still love my abusive parents. I think I’m also so deeply hardwired by all those years of abuse to try and stamp out those feelings in myself and reengage adoring droid mode. View community ranking In the Top 1% of largest communities on Reddit i love my parents always regret taking them for granted when i was 13. Reply. Nobody there to tell me about periods. My brother always chose my mom but i, who had a closer bond with dad always answere "i don't know. Idk if this is an unpopular opinion or not but as the title says, I like living with my parents. Despite how they treated me, I do want the best for them and hope one day they can find their happiness. I have a brother who I love and who would bear the brunt of any issues I create by dismissing our parents. I love how the movie is called “I Accuse My Parents” and yet right before the climactic scene Kitty literally says “Blake is the cause of all of our troubles”. She tried disowning me once and cut off my phone and began throwing my belongings into I love writing those stories, and every time I get to draw a new character, a new setting, or a new animal companion, it's like a spark in my brain. I was interested in hearing this from a woman's perspective. When people live at home because they -only- make $40,000 a year, I'm dumbfounded. My parents love each other and it makes me happy. Prove to your parents that you are serious about your studies. Prove them that you are mature enough to study abroad. I’m really young and my parents are only in their early-mid 50s, but I’m terrified. But I don't love them. I had to do such and such in order to receive any love or affection. I have to give more credit to my parents for not parenting me the way their parents did. I love my parents but at the end of the day I'm grateful I don't live with them. My parents raised me --well, I think-- but I don't feel any kind of love for them as parents. “I love you” is so much more valuable, when its a rare sight. Although I'm hurt, I refuse to hurt. Life is just so hard. View community ranking In the Top 1% of largest communities on Reddit. They’re possessive of you, not loving towards you. Yes, sometimes for years in strange places. My phone is checked by my parents every week. It’s not easy being normal. Every time, my parents say "I love you" to me, I just can bring myself to say "I love you too", for whatever reason. 11K votes, 45 comments. I say I love my parents, but I don't like them as a human being. (in a STEM field) to use. Parents often worry about your safety. They love me and have always provided everything I needed, but my mother was emotionally and mentally abusive for most of my life and my father just let it happen. I love him because I am biologically obligated to, but I honestly would be unphased if AITA for wanting to be around my in laws more than my own parents. I’ve seen my grandmas, aunts, and even in-laws treat their grown children (in some cases in their 60s) like this. I love my family, but I don’t want to be around them. I was dating Sara for 4 years. Being a gay kid, in Alabama (US) in the late 90s/early 00s was so terrifying and the last thing I ever thought I would do is come out to anyone. Anecdotally; my family (specifically grandparents) were openly racist and homophobic. They are just very irritating when they criticise my husband, or my home or my job or the fact that I haven't been abroad in five years. I have to keep a hidden diary in my phone for my pent up emotions. If you’re have a particularly bad day, try exercise and eating healthy foods. Stop listening to them and focus on your studies, your job, and saving for that home. I'm already regreting my behavior with them. And every time I say "I love you", it feels like I'm being forced to say it. Some said its a different kind of love, some said their kids take priority, and some said they love their wife more. Convince them that you will be okay. You can break the cycle. I dont owe them love, or time, or anything. In all honesty, it’s probably hormones. I would miss them if I went a long time without talking to them but I think that’s mostly out of habit. ” towards them was abnormal to me, and whenever they show appreciation to me, (which is extremely rare,) it feels weird and unnatural for them to do that, like they are forced to do it. I have never missed my parents, and I don't ever remember feeling love for them. For context, I’m 21/M living The tragic truth about Narcissistic Parents. You are hard wired to live your parents but that doesn’t mean you fit together. a safer bet would be to tell a friend- they are there to listen and help you, and most definitely not criticise you for feeling this way. I was eventually outed; but the support I received from so many of my friends gave me the courage to confront my I cry almost daily for my parents. My parents have been together since they were my age (21), have had three kids, and like all couples they’ve had their ups and downs. It wasn't always bad and we even had some good moments, especially when I was very young and wasn't aware of the abusive situation Go to teenagers. My mom is also amazing. I feel like I’m gonna have a panic attack, I’m so scared of my parents dying. 3. 563 votes, 147 comments. Yours seem to be doing the opposite. Kiss and hug your cats and anyone who needs a Kiss and hug ️. Keep in mind they grew up in a different time and space, likely holding the same resentment for their own parents, without acknowledging they did the same to you. Sometimes I'm not so sure I love my Nmom. Do not engage in arguments or drama. In these two years things have improved a lot, I even introduce them to my then But hundreds of thousands of years worth of men preceded you and forged their own path -- mostly without their parents. Sorry if this is long. The Bible teaches that we are to love God with all of our hearts, mind, and soul. In my case, it's oddly the opposite: If my parents weren't my parents, I think I'd get along with them and like them a lot more than I do: We share a lot of the same interests and sense of humor. That being said, I love my parents. How can they be loveable? Fear of Parents Dying. Since 8 I moved with my mum back again and with her fiance. The feeling of “love. jj ms yw ui rk yl sw ng al oi