Regret not talking to a girl reddit in other words, she was 100% into the relationship and i was 50%. I end up talking to one of her friends who told me that she had been wanting me the make a move and quote on quote "Be a man" but because I never did she lost interest. I always loved the guys I asked a girl I barely knew in high school to go to prom. Instead I fell into the abyss of teenaged stupidity, assured that my pipe-dream of a comic artist career would just 'come to me', and let the opportunity pass. Which you do not want to be. That she now tries to get with the individual she rejected. I thought he was uninterested because he stopped talking to me, so I moved on. Be brave! It might not be the same at first but if he's open to it, the relationship can be He still tried to "win" me over but I was so damn stupid. If I haven’t seen a particular girl in a few weeks, and I match with a new one that goes out of her way to initiate, I will definitely focus on the new one more. A friend of mine (who was in a relationship) - Did not regret not telling her, as she was in a relationship already and I had no intentions to change that. -I swore that I would love you to the end of time! So now I'm praying for the end of time To hurry up and arrive 'Cause if I gotta spend another minute with you I don't think that I can really survive I'll never break my promise or forget my vow But God only knows what I can do right now I'm praying for the end of time It's all that I can do Very few. You're talking out your ass. I feel more out of place now that I look at my biggest regret. Reply reply More replies. yes girl yes. I’m not talking personal business with yiu. While it’s not what you want, it’s still pretty damn good. Me: go ahead and play I'm not ready yet atm anyways yes 8k+ lobby is so tough Her: Smh. You said you were ready. I didn’t end up obviously but I really regret not taking the chance Said girl won't regret it then, but if she happens to find you on facebook and see this successful life you lead then yes she probably will. She is just not that into you. Like bruh. This behavior proves she is correct in her assessment of you. Obviously I will try to get some sort of job again to sustain myself. I’m happy she’s happy I just regret not trying first. I started coming into money at age 24 when I got hired as a software engineer. This happened to me recently with having a long convo with a new person. We both regret not trying harder. I did want kids but I guess that’s not an option if no decent girl wants to date me. Getting a "no" from "just another girl" isn't fun but no drama. You take the frustration and anger of letting good opportunities slip through your fingers and insert it into the courage of taking action next time and asking the girl out. If you're nervous And that's when I started to suspect she might liked me. Be brave! It might not be the same at first but if he's open to it, the relationship can be repaired. By FAR my biggest regret in life is not beginning my solo travels at an earlier age. To quote meatloaf's Paradise By The Dashboard Light. I mostly hang in English speaking circles regardless. He still tried to "win" me over but I was so damn stupid. She was such an amazing, caring and loving girl. Without too much effort, you will find something that they enjoy talking about. I dont know if i feel sad because i feel like my energy is drained lol or maybe it made me think and kind of im regretting not putting myself out there enough due to anxiety, because this conversation made me realize how i could have potentially talked to more people and have good social experiences if i wasn't so shy and introverted. Should have been deciding on potential career tracks and what kind of college would help realize it. I did not say anything and I do not think I will ever see her again. Fuuuuuck. Me and her are still friends and I knew I liked her back then but I’m just a too nice of a person and have made it impossible for me to be with her. This text was meant to talk about my regret for not talking to a girl, but I think my insecurity is just a symptom of something much bigger and deeper that I actually don’t believe I will ever be normal again. We did not have much in common at all. No, if anything I tried to keep talking too much and that fucked things up (it's hard to explain) and to the crushes I never said anything to I don't regret cause it always ended in rejection when I Regretting not expressing my feelings to a girl, now we've parted ways. Also, you should feel bad about it. I was too nervous to talk her. You won’t hurt forever but let it out. 4K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic. I had it non of the ways, i focused on working and building a business in my 26-29 while living at home. So I just left and never got his name or number. I have been I regret being in a serious relationship in university. Some of her longtime friends started becoming distant with her because of me. (I just finished my Sophmore year btw) Now it is summer and it's the first day after school ended for the year and I feel sad. Nobody ever talked to her so me in my absolutely stupid pursuit of being “cool” never talked to her except 1 time we were forced to work together. He’s a sociopath who is still trying to hurt me. The girl who he did snapchat was just a friend apparently, and it was a “streak”. I tried for four months to ask what was going on and see if we can fix things, but he would never want to have a conversation. Hat. All of the girls I have had success with seem to have been blind luck or perseverance (that is, wearing them down until she decides to "give us a shot," which only happened once, but ended poorly. I was too immature at that stage in my life to know introverted people are great one on one but not so much in groups. Yep. If you never reach out you'll never know and the longer you wait the worse your chances are. it was hard. If not, great. She was an asian girl. I regret not putting more effort into letting my friend know I liked him, because I knew he liked me (this was in high school). She asked me to come talk to her in a more private spot. I have been Thank you so much for sharing this! It really helps hearing other peoples experiences. Other people said it best, yeah sex is great and all, but nothing beats a connection. The regret being as angry and reactionary as I was, not being as clear with her in a calm manner why i didn't like being treated the way I was and give her a chance to work on it to resolve that behaviour, I regret not telling her all my concerns until an argument happened and I threw it all in her face when I was angry and highly stressed, and I know it's hard. I am more of a shy girl, so I’d avoid guys that make me uncomfortable but I know some girls don’t really give a crap about going to a gym where they’ve rejected guys. I’m seriously not exaggerating how loud he snores. I regret not letting my scarred up exterior guard wall down when I was able to. Ahh maybe I misread this but I had a surfing lesson a couple weeks ago and got talking to a girl in the class and we were encouraging each other through out the class and having a good chat. Or she just didn't think they were compatible, or that they had the same interests, or sense of humor, or anything reallyAlso this is classic toxic masculinity you are trying to push. Check "Community Info" in the top right corner if you're using the app, or use the old version of reddit by typing "old" in place of "www" into the URL and look at the top of the sidebar if you're on desktop. Things didn't work out with that girl, I really miss he girl I ghosted, and realize she's what I'm looking for all along. I regret not introducing myself. I would sit at home playing videogames and she wanted to see me, wanted to call me after work, just talk to Tell her it didn't have anything to do with her and that you regret not being more upfront at the time. Still miss her. Just as you lost interest in others before her, she has lost interest. Either way, you can't judge yourself for not acting differently. i started transitioning when i was like, 36. My brother overdosed and didn't survive this time. Even then, the (decent) person will typically tell you why he’s not interested in a relationship. Not having my kids is a gift I gave to them, the gift of not having to have me as a shitty mom. There's also two active subreddit: r/seduction/ and r/pickup/, where you can find information and post questions if you're not sure what went wrong. If she acts on it in some way trying to pursue you just mention that it was never supposed to happen so she gets the message clearly. I feel guilty because i wanted to help her. Talk about it here. Forget hooking up with models. Both things can be true. I’ve only seen regret happen and work out in movies. She seemed really nice and cute and I was like maybe I should ask her out. I found out she started dating someone, what can I do? However, don’t be so hard on yourself, it’s not a big deal. There will be many more opportunities to talk to strangers. i'm blind, so i can't confirm I don't have a terrible track record with women, but I'm nowhere near as successful as I want to be, and it seems like I'm getting worse. Realised later we were on different maturity levels, and she wasn't the kind of person I actually wanted to be with. I do wish I was with him because he was the most incredible I met a girl on a dating app, we have so much in common, she was great to talk to, and is very pretty. Never wanted kids & no regrets. But I was kindly glad because now i could focus on the girl i really wanted. I regret not having those regrets, as ridiculous as that sounds. Forget not buying bitcoin when it was worthless. I’m sorry you’re hurting. Use your tent. Lost the first girl (not really a relationship but a long time crush) because she moved to college. Regret offers an opportunity to learn from your experience and to make a Had a crush on a girl in high school, never had one before or since. I'm a male feminist. I don’t see any guy in the comments saying that he has reached out to a girl that he had dated in the past when he was emotionally unavailable and has gotten back with her after becoming emotionally available. Miss_Tesla_369 • Grow up. Take a big step backwards and try going 2 weeks without texting or calling her. I know it’s probably not much comfort, but again, neither of you did anything wrong. wish i had gone through those years realizing i'm a girl, and not some messed up male who can't be as male as the others around me. Doesn't even message me after like in the past. There were few people at the club and i was set on approaching the girl i wanted. And her smile - pure kindness. Man, my regret is just being so mean. If you’re not excited about the other person, just cut your losses and call it a day It's like asking me if I regret not becoming a rocket scientist or a truck driver. I keep making up various scenarios in my head of me actually expressing my feelings to her and live happily ever after. In highschool there was this lil red haired girl (yes like charlie brown) that I actually kinda liked. I noticed this girl talking with this other guy in a different way than you usually do. I also was hoping girls would talk first but boi was I wrong. I think I ghosted her because For me I think it would have mattered a lot, because there actually were some girls that liked me but I didn't realize (as it is with boys and signs). You didn’t deserve to be hurt. You're not going to regret not doing something you don't even want to do in the first place. my best to talk to her but, I was scared of messing things up. I used to be afraid of talking to people, so I started small - while breifly living away from my hometown, I just started occasionally making observations about the environment to strangers (usually only to other men) around me. In That's not how it works. Several years later you and the girl reconnect, and you find out that hey she regrets doing what she did. All advice given must be good, ethical advice. This is what a confident man is. From there I tried . A girl I worked with and I were good friends, she would talk to me about all her problems and I would offer advice, and vice versa, and we hung out as much as our busy lives would allow us. We didn't speak. He told me years later he liked me alot but never asked me to be his gf because he was moving. Sounding indecisive will prompt people to try help you out and explain why it's good or bad not to go, but if you clearly state that you are not ready yet. The 2 I'm talking about are both social because the problems people are asking to solve are social problems, they often think it's related to their appearance but it is not. Do not call people names or engage in slapfights. Didn't speak. My advice is to just go for it, if you’re the same age it’s not creepy at all to have someone introduce themselves. I can’t help but feel like a bad host. I If you talking to a girl to impress her/or not to make a fool of yourself then you will face these trepidations. i guess one thing in my favor is that i actually look young. If you talking to her just being yourself, then you realise your conversations are smooth and not manufactured. Also everyone said that he is good looking too plus he has blue eyes! But I was still crazy about his shorter, military cut, brown eyed friend. I do regret telling this one girl in high school. manga where mc rejected by countless by single girl but later MC realize that he is not worthy being with her and decide give up on that girl First that girl feels relief that MC is bothering her any more but later she started being frustrated and annoying that MC is not treating and talking to her as before he did I regret not making preparations for what I would do after High-school. Though I could not make her mine, talking to her really helped me to approach women easily. I'm 28 now and I've been over this for about 2-3 years. 20 years later and I'm stuck in retail. How many times have you regretted not talking to a certain girl? For me there have been many situations where I’ve shyed away from talking to a gal I was interested in, due to shyness. I even set up my own demise by helping set her up with her current bf. I began taking it for granted. Years later I was talking to a mutual friend and she told me, that she had a huge crush one me. posts about relationships longer than 6 months post go to r/relationship_advice or if you are married post to r/marriage That's not how it works. Those relationships ended years later at about the same time. Last year I started regretting it like crazy. . Unless you ooze money, an RV is not a good early-roadlife purchase. It's a big wall of text that looks like you were wringing your hands over it, not calm and cool. I'm Nope. I look back at things I had trouble doing, like talking to people (not just girls, I really realised I had a problem when I found myself having awkward silences with guys I'd known for years), and I can trace it all back to the years I spent not interacting with people in social situations. I've been making huge progress, but I still don't seek out people to talk to naturally, and after talking to a friend today I finally got why (at least partially). I would sit at home playing videogames and she wanted to see me, wanted to call me after work, just talk to me. of course, don't force romance with someone After a few weeks of this communication, I naturally started to feel a deeper connection with that person. Not long after that I was on top of her and I blurted out “I love you” in the most cheesiest way. People like the opportunity to talk about themselves, so give people the space to do that. Just like Magnus’ shoe size. These two things actually have the same root cause as why the advice won't work. Not in the same way I regret talking to a girl, I always want a good lasting relationship, but in most of the cases it doesn't happen and they stop talking to me The fact that i have a hard time socializing always has me talking to very few people and I develope a lot of affection towards them, so when they stop talking to me I just feel Not to mention that with Tinder and Bumble, a new girl is always one swipe away for him. after the convo I was like ew what did I just do lmao for me personally since I spend prolonged periods of time in my own comfort when I finally talk to someone new that initiates a long convo it’s like so foreign like a shock to my system cause I’m so used to my introvert routine that talking to new ppl is too I don’t regret it at all. I'm talking about women in general. It’s maybe because I’m not the talkative type. Even if that's I was talking to this guy for almost 2 months and he was so nice and I know he liked me a lot. I personally would rather regret not having kids than regret having them. It is when you talk you will realise your common interests/common dislikes and then take it ahead. Actually, OP it does happen that the girl that rejected you will regret it later in life. 0 interest in her but I'm stoked to have her be my wing woman at bars. Where a girl rejects a guy and then a few years later she sees a guy doing well etc and Beyond that, it is pure bullshit. Just ask her out, if she says yes, great, if not, be her friend. No. He became distant, would not answer phone calls, would not answer text messages. He was so funny, he is rlly tall too, 190 cm. Not for lack of effort, just that she won't talk about herself. Owning an RV won't make you use it. Started back from 0 at exactly 30. Hes with someone else now, im so happy for him, im not heartbroken, im genuinely happy. I hope this advice is even slightly helpful. Occasionally I regret not being the sort of person who should have them, but I never regret not having them given My biggest regret is not having the courage to transition earlier in life. I am an extremely shy guy and can not talk to girls I am interested in. I also was a very stupid 17 yo and I'm 21 now. They are usually talking about a girl who has continually lead them on, broke they're hearts repeatedly, and then went on to only say they want to be friends. Just like you had to fix yourself, they have to do the same 4. I didn't really feel like talking but it When it comes to relationships, it’s not uncommon for guys to act poorly towards their partner. It’s completely normal to regret kissing someone. She also was very nervous , she almost cried. But it's too late for all that now and I feel kind of sad that it'll likely never be a possibility for me. Be brave, you can do this! I'm not talking to my dumper but if she reached out I'd definitely give her a chance, even though she hurt me. Do not bully or harass other users. It has admissions of never talking to women and kicks themselves about maybe not even reading the message, doesn't exude confidence. It gets a little exhausting honestly. I had my wedding on Saturday. with her absence i noticed just how many little things i associate with her Be nice to people, talk with them about the active, see if you have anything else in common. So as the title suggests, if i see a somewhat attractive girl sitting by herself or eating alone, i approach her and ask her if she doesn’t mind me sitting next to her. Me: Magnus? Her: Oh wrong. If the guy is not already a friend, he has not been "friend zoned" because in fact he has been rejected nicely. true. One day, she mentioned to me that she was in charge of making that month's treat for the staff, but she wasn't sure if she could do it all herself. If you’re not excited about the other person, just cut your losses and call it a day I don't know what astroturfed means, but the few videos of people who transitioned who seemed to have sincere regret and are now trying to de-transition seemed genuine (like young people talking). Me: didn't ask you to Her: Ok I'm not talking about one particular woman. for a while, but we were both in a relationship. We knew each other for a long time. When you talk to someone, do so in such a way that they feel intelligent. Forget making more money. Now, by this time I I did a week into the relationship this is a regret post not a atm post Yea ik but I wanted my first to be special and not be someone who could only talk about how bad their life is. In any case I also considered this to not be a loss: he snores VERY loudly and he wasn’t good in bed lol. You have more energy younger. This is Reddit's very own solution-hub. Met this great girl in my last year of college. I hope my comment helps you too! Not to mention that with Tinder and Bumble, a new girl is always one swipe away for him. Years later, I went to my reunion and realized they were all lovely people who I'd be friends with today if we still lived near each other (I now live out of the country), and the issue at the time was with me, not with them. Pretty sure my ex doesn’t regret hurting me. I deserve it, and do not blame Evan at all. Had I asked her out months before, when I wanted to but didn't (not sure why), things may have turned out differently. I didn't go up to him, I felt so awkward. i regret not talking to the quiet girl. I've known and been best friends with someone for 6 years- and I still know very little about her. So thank you nature you managed to create the most miserable and lonely living soul in this world. She told me that she was going through a very painful breakup. ADMIN MOD Regret ghosting a girl . 9K votes, 462 comments. This is entirely my fault as I slept with his recent ex-girlfriend. I'm still having problems with being shy around pretty women, I think if I would've engaged more with the girls that liked me, I would have greater confidence in talking to them. When someone says they are friendfriendzoned they aren't assuming a women should date them as a reward for talking to them. Do not lead this girl on because you're not man enough to tell her your true feelings. My brother got sober. Get a therapist so you can process this thought more if you please. If it’s just not wanting to be in one with no other explanation, he just doesn’t want to be in one with you. (Wait till you regret having sex with them 💀). She was out of my league and out of my social circle. Do I regret breaking it off? No. Closure is the thing to get, not necessarily a healthy relationship, because they're not capable of it and you are better off not being exposed. this sub is for advice about specific dating situations not general debates. He asked to join me on a trip to the grocery store and I said yes. It was really the best decision I have ever made. I regret not talking to her more, just to get to know her. I otherwise don't regret a thing. Agreeing with that. Even then I have never actually meet someone in real life who’s regretted it I sure don’t regret my transition I had 4 years to Girls talk to each other and while you may not get this specific girl to date you, if you develop a friendship she could be a great resource for hooking you up with her friends. My brother over dosed and survived. I regret not talking to her and becoming friends. Take the regret as a fuel to not fck up in the future. The way guys talk about it, you'd think they had some God-given right to have all of their female friends be attracted to them, and anything less is a huge injustice. I have always been polyam basically since my teenage years, but would adapt to my partner if they were monogamous. I was to scared to ask her out. Today I'm laying in regret and hangover. While asian girls are usually not my type, she was just so stunningly beautiful that I feel I would recognize her even today. We ended up becoming friends in class, I would make it a thing to make her laugh on purpose and talk more. I’m sorry that you’re now in a position where you’re not happy and under a lot of pressure, and I really hope you will be able to land a job that’s a better fit for you very soon 🙏 At least now you know for sure what doesnt work for you - so there’s learning and progress in that alone. You have to come straight to the point, not talking around it. This way, you're stressing the friend part and not giving her the illusion that you want to be together. If she does not get curious and make a big reach out to YOU, and I mean if she does not ask to spend time with you and act Interested, then You don’t need to justify anything to anyone and if one day you arrive at partnership, great. They never start the convo first especially in parties etc. Just don’t beat yourself about it because you’re not going to be pondering about this a year from now. Nothing will stop them. This is my experience. If someone tries to tell you that you will regret not being in a relationship of any kind you may just as equally regret being in it so that reasoning doesn’t make sense. Idrr you guys are blth annoying. I have shit ton of boys but only two female friends in college. Try it out, buddy! Asking takes bravery, so being turned down is more admirable than never asking at all. I know it's hard. Well, I'm not at the regretting stage yet but I recently started using Instagram after looking at my sisters profile and seeing some very nostalgic pictures which I would have thought of as stupid at the moment. And in the end it didn't even worked out. If I go into a social situation, I tend to prefer talking to the women, because I find more to talk with them about. There were a lot more people there than usual, including various friends from their hometowns. She was loyal, our humour clicked, she was beautiful, she loved giving attention and always wanted sex. I confessed to him that I like his friend. person who thought they were trans but regretted it," they're literally admitting in the same sentence that they're not talking about actual trans people. We are so compatible, have the same sense of humor, he accepted me for who I am and now I just want to cry from my regrets because I know we would make a great couple. It sounds like neither of you were really ready to deal with your emotions, so you can't know that it would have been a good opportunity for a relationship. One weekend, there was a big party at their house she and her friends all lived in. Members Online • Dizzy-Repeat2049. There are only comments saying that they regret letting her go and are thinking about reaching out to her, but none have actually done so. Then some girl I added on Instagram that I barely knew from back in middle school sent me a message saying hello. It was not all the time though, it was just targeted to some people and only when I was feeling overwhelmed with social things. Here are a few reasons why guys may regret treating a girl badly: Lack of Emotional Maturity. But it will be a constant visual reminder of the life you thought you would live. If she does not seem to want to talk or if she seems uncomfortable while talking at all, then again leave her alone. I could tell something was off. I have to admit that I'm a lot more likely to have at least passing regrets over the fact that I haven't been a rocket scientist, a truck driver, a marine biologist, a tightrope walker, a famous child detective, a swashbuckling pirate, a Pony Express rider, or a gold-mining Alaska Sourdough, but that's I regret every day not leaving. My apologies in advance if this becomes a novel, I just felt as much context as possible is helpful. Be polite and respect each other. More difficult to talk to (one word texts and responses), she always wanted to sleep or play on her phone. I would say move on from her. i don’t regret being honest with her, but i regret leaving her so much. If it DOES work and she seems to deem you friendly, possibly try using a machine near enough to her to start small talk. My mom went into the hospital. I would just stop talking to her for the time being. LGBTQ+ are welcome :) We also have a Discord server. Well saying friend zone does indeed make you sound like a nice guy. i look like i'm in my early 20s i'm told. No girl I've been with has been able to hit the mark like her. The only words to console you are you’re not alone. Husband regrets polyamory not sure what to do. Ask questions about her. On top of that it’s a commuter school so people go to school then go home and people usually transfer out after 2 years which I also regret not doing. It’s my fault I have to just watch from the crowd. We can only hope that someday they’ll have some kind of remorse. My biggest piece of advice is don’t settle. i look like i'm in my She rejected you because your not a Man in her eyes. If you really like this girl, you won't regret not sleeping around. I feel bad for my kids cuz I am not as active as I was in my 30s. Fast forward Friday was the last time I saw her and I regret not making a move. I just don’t know what to do and talk really. This is the easiest way to meet people and learn to talk and socialize, because it is usually pretty easy to talk to someone about stuff you are interested in that they are also interested in. In the moment you acted how you felt you should. THEN say that you appreciate that despite what happened back then, you're both able to move past it and still be friends. A short-lived infatuation period. Shy isn't the right word for what I was then- I talk quite a lot- I was close to be both throughout my teen years, however Evan and I no longer speak since we were 22. Special on eye level, is what I'm trying to say. If I didn't want a commitment with her, there's a reason, and while I might regret that there was reason not to commit, I don't regret my decision. Things got hot and our clothes magically fell off. I tried too hard to keep it alive but eventually gave up and dumped her. I know that talking to people is really difficult and I struggle with it everyday but it’s better to go for every opportunity so you don’t miss out on meeting someone special Yes. Just because you disagree doesn't mean I don't genuinely feel the way I do. And yes, I do regret not having lived more in my Not that I’m not open to talking to guys there, but most of my interactions with gym guys have not moved beyond the confines of the gym and our conversations are usually regarding fitness. I was the class clown, talked to everyone, I played baseball through college and high school and she would sit in class, do her work and when she was finished would pull out her book and read. But I personally know a M2F who is glad to have transitioned and, as I said in my original comment, I know it's a thing that's happens but I don't know that it's common. Do not soapbox or promote an agenda - you will be banned. I recently messaged him again and told him my feelings for him, but I got the feeling he had already moved on but even now I’m still not sure. Do not post content that promotes hate based on identity or vulnerability. They can be fixed, but it's a lot of work and often not worth it. It's I dated this girl who would be great around me when we were alone, but would become extremely quiet and shy when we were in a group. The situation: I (26F) and my husband, A, of 7 years (30M) recently started being fully polyamorous together. I actually regret telling one person because he spent the better part of a decade being mean to me. You met a girl, she piqued your interest and now you regret not asking her out. Getting a "no" from "that unique-best-in-the-world girl" or from a girl you consider At 14, dating was out of the question, but I regret not talking to her because she seemed like a pretty cool person and I let my own cowardice stop me from getting to know her better. I ghosted her for someone who is more my type. i'm 38, nearly 39. The time just wasn’t right. Experience truly is the best teacher. I'm all like, well Grade 4 is great! Not. We both had a common friend ,so one day I gathered up all my courage and went to talk to her . I did not date and enjoy my 20’s as i should have. no expectations, just a very casual conversation while making good eye contact Seems this is the trend from talking to others. Just like I don't regret not competing in hot dog-eating contests or walking the entire country on foot. You keep playing the scenario over and over in your head, yet it doesn't change act. Doubt that would have gone far either, as she was quite reserved and I'm not great at that stuff. She won't regret rejecting you at all if there's nothing for her to regret. It’s always different "Talk to a girl/ a guy you're interested in like she/ he is a person, but with an extra bit that shows she's/ he's special to you. We fought. As much as I'm comfortable of my decision of leaving her, I still feel that her mistakes might have not happened if I did something differently to prevent it Even the negatives that come with the "wild phase" - hangover regret, pregnancy and STD scares, etc - I feel like would have helped me grow and learn as a person. It was a beautiful day that I really enjoyed and everything ran smoothly, but afterwards I was overcome with regret from not speaking with everyone at the wedding. I want you to regret it enough where that upsetting force will drive you to initiate a conversation the next time. Sucks that y'all can't manage to fund trans healthcare so doctors and He kept looking over and smiling at me and me back, we were at opposite sides of the dance floor all night. Talk to other campers you meet on the road about their RVs. Regret not talking to a woman i met randomly in a train station 2 years ago 2 years ago i was in Paris visiting some famous places like the Eiffel tower, sacré cœur, Louvre museum I wanted to go visit the castle of Versailles, this one place wasnt located in central paris so i had to take a 30 minutes train (maybe more o forgot) . Just a guy. You absolutely still have feelings for her, which means you still have hope that she'll change her mind some time in the future, which may or may not ever happen. The gym is probably the worst place to try and flirt with a woman. I'm not telling you to approach and banter with the hottest girl on campus (although you can try - the reward is higher but so is the risk to self esteem). 5K votes, 3. I saw the most amazing looking girl in a train sitting next to me. I'm 44, childfree, sterilized. We were talking I loved a girl since my childhood and she loved me too but I couldn't express her my feelings and I think about that till this day . and yes i wish i had started so much earlier. Because it's a parent, not just a family member, they're in your core in a way that takes a lifetime to heal. Hope you spend your time how you wanted. My 1 on 1 relationships with my profs is the absolute best; I like knowing I’m not just a number in their grade book. I was 19 y/o and decided to meet with this girl that lived a good 400 km away from me after talking for months on the phone. I will never ever regret anything more in my life than not reaching out after he got sober. Reply reply More replies More replies [deleted] Wrong answer! I come to Reddit to see petty squabbles, not people realizing their mistakes and amicably responding. Was honestly kinda glad that I didn’t have to worry about sleeping with a partner who snores. I think it means putting yourself at ease enough to be able to open up and show yourself, but not in the same way you talk to your platonic friends. I have my other 50 year old buddies talking about their kids in university right now. But you'll have all kinds of feelings when they die regardless. She messaged me a couple days ago saying shes not interested in pursuing a relationship with me. After the second date we decided to go back to the hotel where I stayed. I regret not opening up to more people earlier in my life, carrying it all all the time. 1K comments. Just How bad will I regret for the rest of my life if I don’t get marriedever? No girl will be interested now and not 10 years from now. But I regret many times not to initiate a conversation with some. By then I would be 36 and walking around still single. Being friends with her is a privilege. Step 6 Branch out! Try new things! I ended things because on two separate occasions, he told me we should stop talking for a while romantically. Rent an RV. That was my biggest regret, not asking him to be something more. I feel like the experience I’m getting at my “smaller” (not like crazy small, mind you, but not like UNC size) campus is infinitely better in terms of opportunities. She has a boyfriend now and I moved on. Even see her as nothing, and that you are superior to her. I know that he was in love with me back then too. I've told everyone. Not because I want to be with him now or anything, I just cringe at the fact that I was both so desperate to get a boyfriend and yet so averse to showing interest or acknowledging others’ interest due to being shy and terrified lol. While it may have been heartfelt and honest, it lacks many of the things women look for in an attractive partner. two days ago i left my gf because i’ve been feeling for months that i couldn’t love her as she deserved. In hindsight , this was a mistake. As I was leaving I saw him outside in a big group of friends and talking to some girls. It’s also a small school and they do have clubs but it’s not a lot. Still single. I thought I didn’t try my hardest and that there was more I could do. We ended up ending it a couple days ago and I know it was fully on me because I was confused and was never making an The regret being as angry and reactionary as I was, not being as clear with her in a calm manner why i didn't like being treated the way I was and give her a chance to work on it to resolve that behaviour, I regret not telling her all my concerns until an argument happened and I threw it all in her face when I was angry and highly stressed, and One weekend, there was a big party at their house she and her friends all lived in. Now, we will never speak again. If you don’t make it a regret you will always forgive yourself for not taking initiative. Follow reddit rules. I loke your post cause it shows me what ever path you choose you will always have something to regret and that makes me feel better with my choices. Now some helpful advice my friend told me which helped me talk to women and hope not to get down voted "when you're going to talk to a girl, don't see her as some one higher than you, or she expects a better guy than your self because in reality, she's the same as you. Derailing includes but is not limited to: Changing the topic from OP's question Leaving a top-level comment when you're not the target demographic Giving unsolicited advice Making someone else's response about yourself Asking unrelated follow-up questions Branching into unrelated topics I always wanted to talk to her and make her mine. Her son is an adult now, but he’s not having a good go of it and I imagine he will have a very difficult life in response. But one day, perhaps. I fucked up and ruined our relationship, and he will likely never speak to me again. You're just going to make things much worse dragging this out. It's been 10 years since she left my school , 6 years since we started talking again and 2 years since we last chatted but I can't get this thing out of my brain . Some guys may not have the emotional maturity to handle a relationship properly. lol. I don’t know anyone who has that was not socially pressured and put in front of a church and told to say it was wrong of them. Most customer support and state services are available in English, and if not, I can get by with Estonian as well. However, it’s also not uncommon for them to regret their actions later on. Now I am able to talk to lot of women and make friends with My pal was definitely a player who definitely took advantage of her no question, but my point is that she was completely insane. However I'm super shy and I didn't take any opportunities I had to talk to her. I I think it is worth it to go talk to people and this might be something you'll regret in the future. You just feel pressured by other people. Then my business endeavor did not work out and I essentially lost everything. Not telling her directly how you felt is a very beta move of you. Co-worker - Did not regret not telling her. I (a guy) just got a female roommate. I’m all alone. Don't be condescending, use language that they are comfortable with. Walk away if you meet a girl that shows signs of mental health issues. I don’t have friends at the school and I’ve been there 3 years now. In the summer, about six weeks before I leave the area, we start talking about GoT or something and start hanging out and there's obviously mutual interest, but we don't get very far. Everything changed in late August/early September. But really, friends are not people you have to impress. Fast forward the girl i was talking to started to act strange and left the club with her friends about 2:45 am, she basically wasted my time and focus. 5. i couldn’t stop crying since and i miss her terribly. A few months ago I was talking to this girl because I liked her and she seemed really interested, she went dry so I ended up just ghosting her when she obviously still wanted to be friends because we were good friends at that point. And remind of eachother. She just uses them for government assistance and child support. To talk to a guy after a week, drop her school courses and go to texas with him within 2 weeks is pretty nutty. maybe it's because I'm getting older (19) I've regretted not talking to girls that I felt had interest in me many times in my short life which I got 4. Live the lifestyle before buying a lot of vehicle. Younger Estonians don't even usually speak Russian at all, and people here in It devastated our family. She turned me down, but then later I asked a different girl, and she said yes! I don't regret asking the first girl at all. Buy a van. You are not I am hopeless. It is completely normal to open up to friends. I felt regret, mostly because I wasn’t used to being alone. r/Crushes is a safe place for people to talk about their crushes and ask for advice. After the first date I was so excited and I really liked him but as time went on I found myself pulling away and feeling less towards him and I still don’t know why. If people try shame you for not going to get an education, all you need to do is state how you feel about it firmly. I'm pretty careful with that kind of decision. One day I overheard a friend motivating her to go up to me and talk to me but, she seemed to shy. You are not entitled to date her simply because you treat her with respect. My one regret is that I feel terrible for her children because she’s an unfit mother who should never have had kids in the first place. I will be watching my youngest graduate highschool at 62. if she says yes, then all i do is sit down next to her and pretend that i’m having a conversation with an old friend. Instead of telling them that I wanted some alone time or something like that that is adult-sounding, I just yelled However, it sounds like YOU don't want it. He didn't. She was just such an amazing girl and clicked so well. Those weren't things I wanted to do, so I didn't do them. Derailing the topic is not permitted. After the ceremony, we were thankfully able to get photos with all of our extended family. I did not experience the flirting or casual relationships. zejo cygqjh bkmj fxupp qsuhkfc rep wjqsdw tsynra upcdjisl tfd